You will all probably hate me for this

35 ...But I just have to say:

So many of you are amazing people and nurses. The time you put in responding to posts on Allnurses really does make a difference.

BUT.

When people come here asking for advice on a situation, they are not looking for your opinion of them as a person or their behavior. You all know what threads I’m talking about.

It’s one thing to point out that their behavior could potentially be dangerous to patients.

It’s one thing to be honest and tell them that their future doesn’t look too bright.

It’s one thing to suggest they may find seeing a therapist very helpful.

It’s another to tell them they are mentally ill, mock them RELENTLESSLY, or judge them. When you do this to your fellow nurses (that have just come to you for advice), you’re worse than that poor, scared soul you FLAMED for thinking a drug abuser may have a bloodborne illness.

These posters are often simply desperate, scared, or just plain curious!

I know it’s important to have a thick skin when you work in healthcare, and I sure as heck am not busting out the trigger-words “bully” or “NETY.” It’s just that even in my CNA class, it was emphasized over and over that it’s not our place to judge patients. Can’t you afford the same courtesy to other nurses?

I’m generally a pretty quiet person, but I believe in standing up for other people. So I just had to put this out there. Last edit by Joe V on Jun 5
Hey, it's the internet. We are NOT at the bedside and we are an intelligent bunch with outstanding observational skills.When a poster describes a problem with a situation, the answer may very lie with their behaviour or their personality.If they don't want the advice/ observations.. any one can feel free to ignore them.

If you're bad at what you do or are doing something wrong, there are only two ways they will get corrected. One someone notices or you confide in someone and they tell you how you're doing things wrong and how to not do things wrong. The second is causing harm to a patient and having management either fire you or take aggressive action so that if it happens again they can fire you. So would you rather be mocked on the Internet, a place you ventured on your own, or get fired by your facility?

I didn't follow the threads referenced in the OP, but I glanced at them briefly so I think I know what she's talking about.I'm getting mighty weary of being scolded because AN posters are not universally therapeutic and nurturing. It seems we're not allowed to have any time off from taking care of everyone (except ourselves, of course). As the previous poster pointed out ... I'm not on the clock when I read AN. As I once posted in a chronically filthy break room: your mother does not work here.I wish people would keep their stereotypes to themselves. Nevah happen, which is why my keyboard has a back button. Still, it's a nice fantasy.

IMO, when one posts their stories/questions/dilemmas on a public internet message board, one must be prepared for whatever responses come their way - the good, the bad, and the ugly.

If you don't want to hear the negative, don't come to a public forum. Simple as that. When you come here & ask for advice you will get it all, unfiltered.

Quote from Lulu Belle...But I just have to say:So many of you are amazing people and nurses. The time you put in responding to posts on Allnurses really does make a difference.BUT. When people come here asking for advice on a situation, they are not looking for your opinion of them as a person or their behavior. You all know what threads I’m talking about. It’s one thing to point out that their behavior could potentially be dangerous to patients. It’s one thing to be honest and tell them that their future doesn’t look too bright.It’s one thing to suggest they may find seeing a therapist very helpful.It’s another to tell them they are mentally ill, mock them RELENTLESSLY, or judge them. When you do this to your fellow nurses (that have just come to you for advice), you’re worse than that poor, scared soul you FLAMED for thinking a drug abuser may have a bloodborne illness. These posters are often simply desperate, scared, or just plain curious!I know it’s important to have a thick skin when you work in healthcare, and I sure as heck am not busting out the trigger-words “bully” or “NETY.” It’s just that even in my CNA class, it was emphasized over and over that it’s not our place to judge patients. Can’t you afford the same courtesy to other nurses?I’m generally a pretty quiet person, but I believe in standing up for other people. So I just had to put this out there.

Absolutely, you all express valid opinions that I do not disagree with. However, there is an attitude here of "let's all agree we can be as mean as we want, and anyone who calls us mean is a wuss!"Which again, I can understand. For an online forum, y'all are pretty nightly knit. And you are all smart, tough cookies. You hold others to a high standard, which is great!But as I said, there's a difference between giving a blunt and unbiased opinion in which you point out someone's mistake, and being unkind to someone because they put themselves in a snafu.It's not aallllll that much of an exaggeration to say that this is becoming a place where only a certain group of people can post "safely."

Quote from Lulu BelleAbsolutely, you all express valid opinions that I do not disagree with. However, there is an attitude here of "let's all agree we can be as mean as we want, and anyone who calls us mean is a wuss!"Which again, I can understand. For an online forum, y'all are pretty nightly knit. And you are all smart, tough cookies. You hold others to a high standard, which is great!But as I said, there's a difference between giving a blunt and unbiased opinion in which you point out someone's mistake, and being unkind to someone because they put themselves in a snafu.It's not aallllll that much of an exaggeration to say that this is becoming a place where only a certain group of people can post "safely."

Quote from Lulu BelleAbsolutely, you all express valid opinions that I do not disagree with. However, there is an attitude here of "let's all agree we can be as mean as we want, and anyone who calls us mean is a wuss!"Which again, I can understand. For an online forum, y'all are pretty nightly knit. And you are all smart, tough cookies. You hold others to a high standard, which is great!But as I said, there's a difference between giving a blunt and unbiased opinion in which you point out someone's mistake, and being unkind to someone because they put themselves in a snafu.It's not aallllll that much of an exaggeration to say that this is becoming a place where only a certain group of people can post "safely."

Quote from Red KryptoniteCool story, bro.

Quote from FloatRN19What did your CNA class tell you to do when you feel unsafe posting on a message board?

Quote from Lulu BelleReally? Aren't ya kinda proving the point? Btw, I read your posts all the time and are someone I look up to. But I dunno. I feel good when I make a hard situation a little better for someone even if it's in some small, stupid way. Not everyone has to agree with me though ������