Wife wants all-female personnel in OR. Is this reasonable?

1 Greetings folks.

My wife was recently diagnosed with a perianal abscess that is going to require surgery in the OR.

As you can imagine, this is about as embarrassing and compromising a surgery as one can have. My wife is an extremely modest and private individual (she refuses to see a male internist or a male OBGYN, and the general surgeon who will be removing the fistula is a female doctor). My wife is immensely uncomfortable about having this procedure done. Not just because of the compromising nature of the procedure itself, but because she is also concerned that there will be male personnel in the room. And honestly, I can't blame her. If I were in her shoes, I'd have some serious qualms about having staff of the opposite gender witnessing me bent over in the jacknife position and having my anus operated on. I know we are all professionals, but still.....people have different levels of trust for medical personnel, and different modesty needs.

I know she wants an all-female staff in the operating room (with the exception of the anesthesiologist, which she doesn't care about). Quite frankly, I've never run into this situation before - neither as a patient, nor as a resident, nor as an attending doc. Patients have asked me once or twice in the past, but none have actually requested this. But again, it's my wife...and what's important to her is important to me. And unfortunately, I'm not on staff at the hospital where the procedure is scheduled to go, so needless to say I can't pull any strings for her.

What are the prospects of her surgeon and the OR staff making this accommodation for her? If any of you have had any experience with this scenario, I'd certainly appreciate it if you'd relate them to me.
You can always ask, but who cares what people see as long as she's not conscious to remember the experience? When shes on the floor (if she stays overnight) she can always ask for a female nurse, and that wish will be granted.

I would say to go ahead and ask. This is something elective and not emergent (although it probably feels like emergent to her!) so there is time to request and see if an all female staff would be even be possible and/or available.

First of all, I agree with squantmunkie- she's going to be anesthetized and won't be conscious to feel embarrassed.Second of all, you really should be talking to the hospital/surgeon/OR coordinator about this. You can always ask them. Regardless of what we say on here, the hospital may or may not be able to accommodate you.

If the OR team consists of half men/half women, then it might not be logistically possible to accommodate her. All you can do is ask.

I do not know what hospital your wife is a patient at, BUT I wouldn't think it a huge deal to make an all female staff in the OR. Your wife is in fact a "customer" as well as a patient. I work for surgeons who do exactly what your wife is having done among many other things. The procedure is not very long and therefore would take up many staff members for hours on end. It is very hard to deal with and can be embarassing. If they do not at least "try" to accomidate you then I would look elsewhere.

I work in an ambulatory surgery center. For my own recent procedure, I requested an "all-girls" OR. It is not a big deal to request that.

I don't see anything wrong with asking per se, and maybe some places would be more accommodating than others, but it would never be granted at any hospital I have worked for. However, I was a student nurse 25 years ago in a very posh community hospital that would definitely have done this for you. They had white jacketed and gloved waiters, lol. And I'll tell you the honest truth, lots of places I worked might well have said "sure" just to placate her and then it would have been business as usual. Hope it goes well in any event.

The only thing to be seen is the operative area..........patients are drapped and covered.

Quote from cLmPdNI do not know what hospital your wife is a patient at, BUT I wouldn't think it a huge deal to make an all female staff in the OR. Your wife is in fact a "customer" as well as a patient. I work for surgeons who do exactly what your wife is having done among many other things. The procedure is not very long and therefore would take up many staff members for hours on end. It is very hard to deal with and can be embarassing. If they do not at least "try" to accomidate you then I would look elsewhere.

"The point that she is under anesthesia etc and that a combinationof male and female staff members is mute"No doubt that this poster meant to say moot.Doubtful that OP's wife is dumb (unable to speak, as in "mute").

I'm very sorry about your wifes condition.However, unless she is personally paying their salaries, why would she demand this?

I remember years ago, we had an eastern religious bigwig that could only be attended to by men; women were not even allowed into his room for any reason and he had personal guards posted at his door to ensure that. Apparently, the hospital had been negotiated with, and had already agreed to abide by his wishes even before he had been admitted. An all male surgical team, along with recovery in the OR (without having to go through the PACU at all) and then straight into a private room in the ICU. I don't know what political or monetary benefits (if any) were derived from that, but my institution apparently bent over backwards for that one patient. Insofar as for the OP, I don't know how much he brings to the negotiating table, but hospitals can and will offer special considerations if they feel its in their best interests to do so.But to the OP, if it's any consolation, you can tell your missus that most OR people probably won't even recognize her if they bumped into her in the street a week after the procedure. Like others have stated, she going to be draped, face is covered, etc. Also, given the number of cases ongoing in any busy surgical suite, the number of personnel present may easily accommodate such a request; so I wouldn't hesitate to ask. Since it would be up to the surgeon who she wants to work with, I would ask her and make the request through her. The OR staff would likely then provide the surgeon with what she requests. Good luck, and hopefully a speedy recovery for your wife