Rn hurt by cold behavior

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I have been in nursing for 3 yrs with Bsn 3.5 GPA, also enrolled in fnp program. Recently I got terminated from job bcoz I refused to resign. I haven't done any errors on floors but had to take leave as my mom met with brutal accident , hit by car while crossing rd. she is disabled for life, is fully vent dependant and cannot speak and lies eyes opened.i had to go back and forth From one city to another to see and follow up on doctors reg my mom. I am only child.

My supervisors started giving me warnings knowing well I don't go to see my mom . I am doing this by taking my own personal and sick hrs etc. supervisor started finding fault with me even though coming to job was some change for me sometime. slowly they started showing me that I need to resign and I did not bcoz finding job is not easy. I cannot go for FMLA as I do not qualify.

I have started hating nursing politics and mgmt because things can happen with anybody. I am sad, moral is down and feel like would I be able to go on floor again with so much cold behavior.

I don't know what to do
I'm sorry this is happening.WHile it feels very personal, it's all about business. They need to have someone who isn't having to take the time off (and I understand why you would). They fired you- you can apply for unemployment. If you resigned, you couldn't do that. Best of luck, and I hope your mom stabilizes.

Agree with the above. I'm sorry to hear about your Mom.

First, I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I couldn't imagine if something like that happened to my mom. The thing that really upsets me is... isn't nursing an empathetic profession? Where is the empathy for our own people? As far as what to do... having a BSN maybe you can find a job auditing charts or just something away from pt. care at this time. We are all here for you... good luck.

Whether or not you were FMLA eligible you should have been allowed to take some compassionate leave.I am truly confused about your circumstances because you state you weren't making any errors. Was this all about attendance?Best wishes.

Quote from rnhurthii have been in nursing for 3 yrs with bsn 3.5 gpa, also enrolled in fnp program. recently i got terminated from job bcoz i refused to resign. i haven't done any errors on floors but had to take leave as my mom met with brutal accident , hit by car while crossing rd. she is disabled for life, is fully vent dependant and cannot speak and lies eyes opened.i had to go back and forth from one city to another to see and follow up on doctors reg my mom. i am only child. my supervisors started giving me warnings knowing well i don't go to see my mom . i am doing this by taking my own personal and sick hrs etc. supervisor started finding fault with me even though coming to job was some change for me sometime. slowly they started showing me that i need to resign and i did not bcoz finding job is not easy. i cannot go for fmla as i do not qualify. i have started hating nursing politics and mgmt because things can happen with anybody. i am sad, moral is down and feel like would i be able to go on floor again with so much cold behavior. i don't know what to do

So sorry about your mom. How awful that your place could not be a bit more understanding due to the circumstances. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

I went through the same issue with my father-in-law when he was dying, the DON was heartless and told me if i left to be by his side( he was on hospice and not expected to last for more that 2 weeks), that i had to quit, if i wouldnt have been so emotional i just would have let them fire me. FMLA was not an option, since you have to have 12 months in a job in order to qualify and i was new. I have been a nurse for over 6 yrs and in healthcare for 15 yrs, its sad that no one care anymore, as long as they meet there quotas...

Quote from Esme12You may certainly apply for FMLA to care for a family member, all it takes is a MD letter that states how/why you are needed.

I too would have been very hurt and angry by this turn of events. My best to you and your mom as you grieve her terrible accident and your job loss. :heartbeat

First, my thoughts are with you and your beloved mom.Second, If I were you I would thank my lucky stars that I was not working at the facility any longer.....wow, just wow!!!

How sad, I am truly sorry for the way your were treated.I am heart sick at your circumstance, how can any place justifythemselves as a health care center when they treat staffas poorly as they have treated you. If they are just a business,so be it andmove on. For your experience and education, there will bebetter opportunities to blend the needs of caring for yourMom and your own career.In the meantime, my prayers are with you and your Mom....

Before my son died of cancer, I was able to take FMLA intermittently, as I was his sole caregiver. I had been at the same hospital for 8 years, and they were very good to me. Then my son and I moved, to be nearer his treatment center and his oncologist, and I took another job for the next 4 years. (Prior to that move, I had to drive 200 miles each way for his treatment. We lived in a very rural area.) I was terminated from this second hospital because my son was in the emergency room, actively vomiting bright red blood, and we were left in the ER pending an ICU bed. Well, my son died, and I was terminated because I failed to call in to the hospital that day to say I would be out. God bless you and your mother.