Letter to the Offended

85 Dear offended people of all ages,

We are not talking about you. When you read a "vent" post, please note the use of such words and phrases as "some", "not all" and "exceptions". Based on the posts I read from you detailing your long, hard struggle through life to get where you are today, I can categorically say that without exception YOU are the reason we do not say "all" and "everyone". You are the role models for the "some" who's thoroughly unacceptable behavior we are talking about!!

If a vent contains keywords that grab your attention - it's because it just so happens that a lot of people haven't learned the word "moderation" that you have. If you have a very tasteful piercing or tat, a light spritz of body spray, a bit of blush and mascara, a flattering scrub top, or any other obviously normal thing, there really is no need to rush to the defense of that person who wants to wear 3 pounds of hardware on their body, douse themselves with Axe or Pear/Honeysuckle oil, or do up their eyes like Liza Minnelli in Cabaret., or have a hot pink whale tail thong peeking out the top of her low-risers.

If a vent contains criticism of parents who use their children as an excuse to slack at work, we are not talking about your child that has a 104 temp and is making a hideous rasping noise when he breathes! Go take care of your child! Please! We arent't talking about you!!I really can think of more of these - maybe others can relate to this - Instead of getting Offended on behalf of the people who make you look bad because you happen to share a characteristic with them - a bit of guidance to steer them in the right direction or a "this is how I did it" thread would be a lot more helpful than your story wedged into a thread that is not talking about you.

Lest anyone get offended because the examples above normally apply to younger people - the same applies to the behavior of us oldsters as well. Thank you for reading.
If the shoe fits, wear it. If not, don't try to cram your foot into it!

how would you like it if i start a thread with the heading "nurses > 40/50."and say something like they are lazy because they have been nursing for a while and they like to eat their young and they are crabby all the time. then say something like yeah i've been noticing this in my unit and some of my friends agree.hmm...?

i don't believe in my above statement but i'm just saying...people have their own opinions and experiences so you have to take everything with a grain of salt when reading something online.

Personally, I wouldn't care. I know I'm neither lazy nor crabby. Why would I care about comments that couldn't possibly be directed toward me?

i didn't even bother posting on that nurses < 30 thread because i am 27 y.o. and i know i am a hard worker. but you don't have to sugar coat that op's intentions and try to explain to us it does not apply to all. we know! but it still does not sit well with many people who are under 30 because generalizations are usually not a good thing.

Bah, let it roll off. If it doesn't apply to you, it doesn't apply and that's it. The interwebz is not personal.

It is in learning to embrace our differences that we can come together. I am OK with people wanting to form subgroups based on their age, gender, race, creed...that is how the world works. However, I wonder if allnurses.com is the right venue for this.

I think it is as good a place as any to discuss same.

Quote from linearthinkerBah, let it roll off. If it doesn't apply to you, it doesn't apply and that's it. The interwebz is not personal.

Quote from agldragonrnhow would you like it if i start a thread with the heading "nurses > 40/50."and say something like they are lazy because they have been nursing for a while and they like to eat their young and they are crabby all the time. then say something like yeah i've been noticing this in my unit and some of my friends agree.hmm...?

Quote from linearthinkerI think it is as good a place as any to discuss same.

Quote from syckRNYou may be right. I am a newbie to this blog.