I take it personally...

9 ...when we lose a baby, out of the blue, that was doing so well just 2 days ago. I ache for the parents, and it makes me angry that we couldn't do anything to save this little boy. I hope it gets easier to deal with.

RIP, little boy.
Sometimes that would happen on the 1-18 month unit I worked on, too. Why that one? Why then? Don't know. Hugs {{{bortaz-little boy-parents}}} I feel it, too.

Well, of course you do. Bortaz, RN. It's probably part of what makes you a good nurse. That, along with an ability to air your feelings and have closure with well wishes.Dave

I don't think it ever gets easier to deal with.It's hard not to feel for the parents.I cried the first time I watched a mother lose her baby.I felt so bad and I felt her pain.Bortaz RN I am thinking of you!You are an awesome nurse!

Being that you feel the pain, and feel for that family makes you a wonderful nurse! It's only normal to feel that way, and I understand where you come from. You can have closure knowing you tried to help save that baby.We all are thinking of you!

If you didn't take it personally I would be more worried. You're upset because you put yourself "out there" emotionally for your patients. If you didn't it would be time to sit behind a desk and do something else. I remember every one of the patients I have lost and although it hurts I am grateful for that pain because it reminds me why I do what I do especially on those days when I feel like giving it all up. Keep taking great care of the babies because they really need people who care about them as much as you do.

I've been a nurse for 18 years. YOU NEVER GET USED TO A DYING OR SICK CHILD. EVER.Much love hugs, and remember to take care of yourself by giving yourself time to grieve....

Bortaz, I did 7 yrs of peds. Finally just couldn't deal with it anymore. God Bless your heart! Know that you are in my prayers for strength, comfort and grace that only HE can give. You are a blessing and treasure...don't EVER forget that!

They day it gets easy is the day it's time to do something else. When I see death, it's usually at the end of a long life, and even that can tear me up. A baby? Hon, you're doing what I never could.:hugs:

Thanks for the support, everyone.

With attending a conference and having a few days off, I haven't been back to work since the demise. I can't wait to get back. The days off helped.

Quote from Bortaz, RNWith attending a conference and having a few days off, I haven't been back to work since the demise. I can't wait to get back. The days off helped.

There's not much mention of staff support.