Strange Story

2 so i do not work in nursing homes. i have always been a, icu / er nurse. however i have a good friend who is the don of a small, private nursing home. very occasionally, like once a year i have filled in on night shift for her when she was desperate and scrapping the bottom of the barrel to fill a night shift.
so my friend calls me at the last minute saying she is out of town and her night nurse called in and she has nobody to cover it. the day nurse is already working a double so can't stay for nights, could i please, please cover the shift? it's a really easy job for the rn and i usually just end up reading or surfing the net most of the shift. i help the cna turn a few patients and give the occasional prn. so i agree and head into the nursing home.
i am working with a very nice young cna, we will call her "jane". jane is 17 years old and in high school, she works every saturday night at the nursing home and i was told she was "excellent" and really knew her job and the residents.
so about 2400 jane asks me if i can help her turn mr. smith (not his real name). mr.smith is an older man who has been paralyzed from the waist down for years. he is also a big man and heavy and a stroke in the past left him mostly nonverbal. i say sure and we head in there. jane talks to mr.smith like they are old friends. we adjust the bed and grab the draw sheet, as jane leans over the bed mr.smith's hands shoot up onto her breasts. jane doesn't even flinch. after boosting him, as we were walking out of the room i ask her why she tolerates mr.smith grabbing her breasts? jane says to me:
"oh that mr.smith has always done that, it keeps him calm". !!!
every two hours the rest of the night the same thing happened, and according to jane he has done that for as long as she has worked there. i offered to have a talk with mr. smith for her, jane just shrugged and said she doesn't mind and that he tends to get upset and moody if he doesn't get to do it.
my first thought was "holy cow! they should put this in the brochure and they would have a waiting list for beds in this home". my second thought was that there was a real generation gap in what is and isn't acceptable in evidence here (between jane and i).
i did fire off an email to my don friend.
maybe it fill a need for Jane too

Glad you emailed the DON. That's very inappropriate. I would think that at 17 years old she would have a better understanding of right vs wrong, and more self-respect, but...?

:O Yeah honestly...I don't even know what to say to that story. That is a good story of what not to do, or allow to happen.

Bad enough that she's tolerating it, but it also means that any other female who turns him is likely to get the same treatment. Totally unacceptable, and even at 17 she ought to realize that.

< ---- sending "respect yourself" thought waves to Jane ...Oy. Thank you for addressing this blatant impropriety.

I so hope Jane's behavior is not due to what she has been subjected to in her upbringing. I can tell you as a parent I'd make holy **** rain down on the facility.

Is it wrong that I started laughing when I read this?

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Quote from classicdamemaybe it fill a need for Jane too

Keep in mind, this is the generation that doesn't think oral sex is "sex" The Washington Post did a story about it.So a "feel up" probably is nothing to her. I'd be yelling "NO" and wouldn't go into the person's room without another person present. What if a family member walked in and said she was molesting grandpa?http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j...Gv1KQBTFhxNmyw

'Jane' is an ignorant fool. Anyone that lets strange men grab their breasts needs a good talking to. What does she let other people do to her? This smacks to me of someone who may also possibly have been a victim of some sort of child molestation when she was younger, as this is one way it manifests itself later.I would REALLY sit down & have a talk with her or get your DON friend to do it. Being gullible in the world isn't funny - we need to eduate & protect our young ones. My little great niece is the same; she will go up to anybody & talk to them, a habit we are trying to discourage. She is too trustful of everyone. I remember as a young NA a guy put his hand right up my fanny for a quick feel when I bent over one day - we wore dresses then - & he didn't have dementia or anything like that. Everyone laughed it off & thought it was hilarious - including the staff - but I remember feeling cheap & humiliated. My cheeks were burning all day. My then fiancee was not too happy about it either. This is not good and I personally do not think it is funny either. Some may think they are pandering to an old man's whims who will never leave his bed, well, too bad, times have changed. I can't believe, from what the OP posted, that 'Jane' wasn't bothered by this at all. She needs some serious life lessons taught to her. Once one man takes a liberty, they all will, then it leads to other, more sinister things.