Do Not Enter - No Boys Allowed; Setting Boundaries

Absolutely,yet why are there so many boundary violations committed by nurses? It is areal problem with state nursing boards.

Quote from Sacred eagleAbsolutely,yet why are there so many boundary violations committed by nurses? It is areal problem with state nursing boards.

im a male nurse and iv had a few cna's more or less back me into a corner wanting attention , its not going to ruin my day , but it's a little awkward when the feeling not mutual . You have to just act like you dont no what they want and stay focuses on what your doing , a few times iv had to come out and say to there face its not happening . but...... don't act like people don't like the feeling of being wanted, its just when the other person doing it isnt your kinda off guy or gall it makes it weird, or if your in a relationship ect

Quote from beast master RNim a male nurse and iv had a few cna's more or less back me into a corner wanting attention , its not going to ruin my day , but it's a little awkward when the feeling not mutual . You have to just act like you dont no what they want and stay focuses on what your doing , a few times iv had to come out and say to there face its not happening . but...... don't act like people don't like the feeling of being wanted, its just when the other person doing it isnt your kinda off guy or gall it makes it weird, or if your in a relationship ect

How interesting...the title of this article is so appropriate to nursing. Unlike medicine and law, nursing continues to be an incredibly sexist occupation. Over 100 years of nursing in the US and it is dominated by a single gender. Law schools are now roughly 50/50, medical schools are approaching 50/50 but nursing schools are still over 90% single gender. Unlike law and medicine, there is very little outreach to encourage males to see nursing as a good career choice. My experience as a male in nursing school and nursing has been rife with "no boys allowed" attitudes. Too bad too...nursing is a great field........

In naming this blog entry, it certainly was not my intention to focus on denying guys entry into nursing school. It merely was part of my memory of boundary development as a child. But it is interesting that you pointed this out. Years ago.......back in the Dark Ages.......when I was in nursing school, we only had one guy in our class. His name was Tom and we all really liked him. He was a great student. It is a shame that more guys do not choose nursing as a career. And it is too bad that some of the ones who do, feel the "no boys allowed" atmosphere. The male nurses I have had the pleasure of working with have been wonderful.Thanks for your input!

Love the article. Hoping for a part two and possible part three. Having been raised by an alcoholic, I never had boundaries. No, I never had the "finer" boundaries. As a matter of fact, I did not know they existed. I knew, folks should not steal, rape, or call me derogatory names...but I never understood, sharing certain info about myself or family was the same as having no boundaries. I knew not to lie, but I did not know, that TMI, was just as wrong and in effect, inviting others to cross certain boundaries that they would never cross with another person. Around 45 years old, working as an agency nurse, a beautiful woman, name Clair, gave me a book on boundaries. She had told me, that although she only knew me for hours, she could see I had no sense of personal boundaries....the book, changed my life. I have since bought dozens and given to various other, adult children of alcoholics. All of us had the same reaction to the book, OMG, we never knew, never thought about it and we will change our interactions with others. I still have difficulty with certain areas of my life, concerning boundaries, but, now I am aware and will hold myself back when I find myself inviting others to come in, where they do not belong. Peace!

Quote from tnbutterflyThank you for posting. Can you please elaborate.

Quote from Chin upLove the article. Hoping for a part two and possible part three. Having been raised by an alcoholic, I never had boundaries. No, I never had the "finer" boundaries. As a matter of fact, I did not know they existed. I knew, folks should not steal, rape, or call me derogatory names...but I never understood, sharing certain info about myself or family was the same as having no boundaries. I knew not to lie, but I did not know, that TMI, was just as wrong and in effect, inviting others to cross certain boundaries that they would never cross with another person. Around 45 years old, working as an agency nurse, a beautiful woman, name Clair, gave me a book on boundaries. She had told me, that although she only knew me for hours, she could see I had no sense of personal boundaries....the book, changed my life. I have since bought dozens and given to various other, adult children of alcoholics. All of us had the same reaction to the book, OMG, we never knew, never thought about it and we will change our interactions with others. I still have difficulty with certain areas of my life, concerning boundaries, but, now I am aware and will hold myself back when I find myself inviting others to come in, where they do not belong. Peace!

Quote from Sacred eagleBoundary violations. In one month 3 nursing staff were fired and reprimanded by the state nursing board fordating patients. Interesting,these 3 nurses were female.

Old Guy makes a good point about gender differences in nursing. Lots of people don't realize that men did the nursing in the miliary pre-Army nurses for females in 1900. I doubt if its the nursing schools keeping them out now; men are self choosing to forgo nursing. We need better recruitment.I think hospitals cross boundaries without penalty when they call people to come in on off days. I reached a point when I told staffing not to bother calling me because I earned my time off. I got a spill about the patients' needing me,' and I pointed out it wasn't my job to hire or fund nursing slots, but the person who had that job should be called before me. Making it to retirement means speaking up for yourself so you're not a broken down wreck that gets kicked to the curb.

I'm having a terrible time setting boundaries w/ a tech of ours. She just won't do her work, pushes crap onto us, we go home late, she sits and takes her lunches and breaks anytime she wants ....people go to the boss about her, but somehow she is allowed to be this way due to her long term employment status . ..and we nurses just have to put up w/ it. I mean -- I have NO PROBLEM telling her the problems I have w/ her .. .the problem is .. .it will do no good and she will turn ppl against me and/or make my life even more miserable. She's a little tyrant ...and I can't stand her.