So upset right now I could spit nails...

How do I begin this? If anyone has followed my posts on here, you know that I have
pretty much run my nursing career into the ground. I mean, I started out nine years
ago in a great hospital, with a promising med/surge career; I could only go up. Nine
years later... I'm LUCKY to get hired by a lousy LTC.

Things were truly looking up recently, about three weeks ago,
when I got a phone call completely out of
the blue, from a HH company that I had actually interviewed with MONTHS ago, but
got passed over for the job; it was a job that I would have REALLY liked to
have had. They called me out of the blue wanted to talk to me again, about
another position. I was so excited; I interviewed again for the position. THought
I had it in the bag, but had to do a second interview. Second interview, didn't
go so well, but honestly I didn't think it went THAT bad, not enough for
me to lose the position?? I didn't go as well as I would have liked, but...

I happened to mention to a former friend of mine, someone that I still "network"
with, but this person is "former" for a reason.... that I was trying to get a
psych HH position. Fast forward to now... it's been almost two weeks since
the second interview. I still haven't gotten a job offer; I really thought I would
have by now.

I contacted above mentioned "friend" this morning because I needed some
info concerning former supervisors, from a place where we have both worked.
For reference reasons. Come to found out, this "friend" now has a psych HH
job, with the company that I just happened to be trying to get hired with!

Arrrrrgh!!!! I know this sounds jealous and psycho, but I swear I wouldn't
put it past this person that they went after the EXACT same position that
I was trying to get!!! What really makes me mad is that this person is a
selfish, self serving, non caring... arrrrgh, words I can't use on here!! This
person is also a MALE, very good looking I will admit, and could charm the
pants off of a goat. He does so in order to get everything and anything that
he ever wants!!!! OH, it makes me mad. He's a horrible nurse; he doesn't
really care about his patients, he only cares about having the easiest job
possible. Give him even a little bit of WORK, and he doesn't want to do it.

Which is probably why he won't last in that job anyway, but I digress..

Okay, so *sigh* the above was a rant about how this person gets everythig
he ever wants by being charming and cute, while I have to feed my family (he's single
with one grown child and one almost out of HS), and can't find a job.

What I really would like to know, if you have read this far (and bless your heart
if you have).... SHOULD I call the HH place on Monday and make them tell
me once and for all, if I'm still up for a job there or not? I would still very
much like to work for them, and I'm tired of waiting for a yay or nay answer
from them.

My brother was right... I need to just quit whining and being so whishy washy
and just GO FOR IT, both with this job, and just with life in general.
You can either sit there and let the giant wave of life wash over you or you can get on your surf board and ride it.

*sigh* You are right, dude... So you think I should call them then?

Ditch the friend. Clearly networking with this person is a mistake.Beyond that, just cut your losses. Get your eggs out of this basket and move on. Putting them on the spot to make them tell you something will only make you look bad. At the very most, send them a thank you card for their time so they remember you were interested and might still be. Not every place does the courtesy of calling to say you're not hired.

Thank you ixchel... I agree. This person has caused me very little more than grief andheartache over the years... used to be a very close friend. I've known him for quitesome time, but these days speak very little to him.And you're right, maybe I'll just send a thank you card. I did drop the director a voicemaila couple of days after the interview, but haven't communicated with her since. A cardcan't hurt.I'm just.... SO, SO incredibly frustrated at this point. I feel like all there is left for menow are jobs that will bring in money, but very little reward or satisfaction. As a Christian... and I know, that first post had very little Christianity to it ... I'm tryingto live a life in which MY personal satisfaction means so little, in the grand scheme ofthings... but it's... HARD, sometimes.

I feel better now... I've calmed down now.I mean, I was STEAMING when I read my "friend's" email."Calm down.... Have some dip!" --George Carlin

Oooh see. Don't tell anyone even family where you are interviewing specifically. Family sometimes just even mentions to a neighbor or something and before you know it... just try not to give details. Here is a story: Right after I had received my license, I had sent a resume to a NM, and, had one interview. I told a classmate from my college casually during a "catching up" phone chat, that yes, I just interviewed for a position on this unit. Well, I never got another interview. Much later I met someone currently working on that floor. I told this person of my interview to no avail and he said, "Let me bring in your resume, maybe I can see what happened." Well, the NM told him, "Yes I remember her - really liked her. but "Suzy" her classmate (working as a tech then, had not taken her RN boards yet) said that netglow was more interested in working another specialty and that she was pretty sure netglow was about to accept a different job." Apparently Suzy was asked about me as we were classmates and she was an employee albeit not a nurse yet and thought she would keep me from a job she thought should be hers even though she had not even scheduled her NCLEX yet.You just never know who will screw it all up.

Quote from netglowYou just never know who will screw it all up.

Card is always appropriate. though after 2 weeks, it is a little bit late. I'd call and ask, and you can always put it this way, "I've had a few offers, but this is the job that I am most interested in, so I'd like to hold off, until you can give me a response."GOod Luck. and yeah, ditch the friend...

Quote from HalfMarathonerCripes. With friends like that, who needs enemies?? :icon_roll

I learned a long time ago not to talk about potential employers with "friends" unless I was ready to compete with said "friend" for the work. People use others to get ahead you know. Change your behavior in this respect. Take care of Numero Uno first. I would certainly call these people. What are they going to tell you, that they hired your "friend" instead of you?

Quote from sauconyrunnerI'd call and ask, and you can always put it this way, "I've had a few offers, but this is the job that I am most interested in, so I'd like to hold off, until you can give me a response."GOod Luck. and yeah, ditch the friend...

No advice, just a nudge and a wink and a "you can do it!" :-)This "friend" sounds like a piece of soft formed stool... I wish you the best, and try to remember that karma can be a powerful cosmic punitive tool. Good luck!