Self Love and Boundaries for Nurses

As Johnny Mathis sang, "Wonderful! Wonderful!" Wow, Dr.Lori, R.N., That was a beautiful piece of work! Your message was truly directed at self love. I took its basic point to be that self love is necessary in order to adequately share one's energies.I'd like to share with you a concept that I stumbled upon some years back. This concept is in connection with the portion of your statement, "remaining unattached to the results". This concept is called "aesthetics of the transitory". It was first presented to me in connection with the artistic process: To be into the moment, the work, and not in the outcome, the product. I have since found that this concept can be applied to life in general. I believe it parallels points you made.I could go on and on about yor article. Pleases allow me to sum up some of those points that really hit home: Energy spent on percieved expectations can result in compassion burnout. Balancing and boundaries and self love. Self love allows for a shift of growth. And I think I can sum up the final point that stood out to me by quoting from Emotions Anonymous: "My happiness does not depend on what others do or say or what happens around me. My happiness is a result of being at peace with myself." (I may have paraphrased.)Thank you for your wonderful article, Dr. Lori, R.N.

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Davey Do! Thank you for this validation. I am so happy that this concept resonates! I have never heard of "aesthetics of the transitory", but yes..bingo! What a wonderful way to take that and use it as a life guide. Much success to you always on your journey. I hope you remain happy and at peace with yourself on the inside And, thank you, not_a_hat_person (neither am I, haha) You are right. It is hard to read and I will be sure to use black fonts.

This is profound and so very, very true. Unenlightened individuals, READ PLEASE. This will save you plenty of headache and expenditure of energy. Excellent, excellent, excellent read.Dr. Lori, you have just reiterated wisdom I have said over and over and over again to the older generations as well as the up-and-coming.If always starts with YOU and then it goes OUT.....Boundaries are so important. I am glad you have given me something to impart to my own children, who are quite well-adjusted thanks to this innate understanding of "loving" who they are.....Thanks again!

JoPACURN, I am so honored that you have resonated with this information. It really is quite a simple concept, isn't it? Very basic..yet holds ultimate truth. So easy Much success to you and to those whom are fortunate to be in your company!Thank you!!

I was just reading someone's post and found myself wanting to tell that person that real love is colorless, odorless, flavorless, impalpable, silent (except I didn't think they'd get it). Great article. It certainly needed saying.

Doc Lori RN, I have found your writings to be MOST helpful. I am a BRAND NEW RN, just getting ready to transfer to Medical Oncology floor and wondering if I can handle it. You have no idea how encouraging your articles have been to me. We do have some differing ideas, but that aside, I LOVE these articles and your ideas. Thanks SO MUCH for your encouragement to new RNs. Gonna keep you on my radar!! And, anonymurse, I agree! ;")

I am so happy that my articles are resonating! It truly is a blessing, and such a validation, even if one of my nurse colleagues, somewhere on the planet can regain even a bit of bounce in their step. I feel entirely and equally rewarded by reading everyone's work as well. Man oh man, let me tell you all, I have been there, done, that..right along with you. While my ideas are based on transpersonal concepts ( integrated psychology and spiritual/metaphysical methods ), there is something for everyone. The twinkle in one of my client's eyes can possibly illuminate the room, when the light bulb goes off in their heads! As someone here has recently stated to me, quite perfectly, I might add, nurses tend to wear this cloke of never needing healing or fixing, as this is what they do for others. Quite the opposite, quite the opposite. Personally, I resonate strongly with the idea that we have all been energetically attracted to nursing, on some level or another, and in the process, be able to heal ourselves. I have a sense of knowing that I was attracted to nursing, to ultimately be able to help my fellow nurses enjoy rich joyous and unfragmented lives. I am so thankful to have found this website, to be able to share and connect with the most incredible people. Nurses and Healers.

Thank you Doc Lori! I needed the positive reminder of my own value! I can't take care of the outside world until I feel and love the inside world! I'm a little burnt out with a very busy job a disabled husband and fibro flair up recently. thanks for reminding me to breathe!

Thank you, your message was exactly what I needed today. :redpinkhe