What To Do When Dating A Co-Worker

Long story short, I sort of had a date with one of the surgical residents where I work. She is a bit younger than me and things progressed at speed of light pace. Little regret at get so intimate so soon, but now I do not know what to do.

I like her a lot and she is so beautiful, but I don't want to let my personal life spill over into my work life. I know - a little late now to care about that, but I don't want her attending to know about the budding romance and do not want my co-workers to give me $hi$ over it.

How can I tell her to pump the brakes and not be all clingy at work. I have to work with these people and I do value their respect. I still like her, but not so touchy feely at work. Is there hope?
This is an important issue and you must discuss it with her. There should be absolutely no intimacy or personal stuff between the 2 of you at work. It does not belong there and will only cause trouble.We had 2 nurses that were dating for over 2 years before anyone even knew they had a relationship. They are married now for 5 years and still work together. Absolutely nothing but straight up professionalism from the 2 of them at work.If she can't make that happen then you might want to consider finding a partner with greater maturity.

You got involved at work. You expected--what?

oooohh... you got the clingy type hahahahaok, so you like her enough to keep it going. the only way is to tell her to seriously not be that way at work and that you'll just make up for it after work.and if eventually this doesn't work it, my friendly advice would be to refrain from any at work romance

The problem with dating at work isn't the actual dating, its the breakup. If it gets ugly, she will air all your dirty laundy or just make up some. Do you really want your co-workers to know what size penis you have or worse? Get out (gently) if you still can. At least a resident should be rotating.

Quote from lsvalliantThe problem with dating at work isn't the actual dating, its the breakup.

Never date co-workers. Nothing good ever, ever , ever comes of it.

Quote from P-medic2RNNever date co-workers. Nothing good ever, ever , ever comes of it.

Yeah, don't do it. If you meet someone that you think is the love of your life I'd seriously consider whether it is so important that one of you should find another job. Seems like a decent litmus test to me. At my job no matter how low key it always gets out, the gossip swirls and it really looks unprofessional.

Quote from MiiszKimberlyCNAI totally agree.A guy in environmental services asked me for my # and I told him no.

OK buddy. You just tell her that "someone was saying something" or whatever and that's the reason "we" (not just she) should try to not be too touchy/feely or whatever. See... not your fault. And not her fault. It'll go down better this way. You're going to make it sound as if YOU'RE fine with it, but see your boss or some co-worker made some negative comment or something.

You can also try the "I'm thinking about your future" kind of thing, spin it that you want her to be held in high regard for complete professionalism.I'm not going to get on the "don't fish in the company pond" bandwagon; I did it once (and I'll NEVER do it again, that break up stuff is nasty at work, you get his friends vs. your friends and the "his fault/her fault" can completely tear up the work dynamic of a group). You know your own mind on this one at this point.What I would suggest, gently, as someone who's on the high side of 40, don't date people much younger than yourself. You can occasionally find someone who's truly mature for their age, but that's very, very rare. You get clingy, you get jealousy, you get immature behaviors (eventually) that may have been cute initially but then they just get irritating. Eventually, you want someone your age, and they want someone their age. That's just advice from someone who went down that particular path, and found it to be a rocky, rocky road.

Look! She's beautiful and you like her. Talk to her about keeping it professional at work, if she really likes you she will respect you. Let her know you value your relationship with her. maybe she's insecure and she just trying to let all the other females know that you guys are dating so they can keep off. Just talk to her. dont stop dating her. enjoy it while it last. you never know it may end tomorrow or last forever. And for the people that says she will tell your business once you guys break up. Do you have a skeleton in you locker? if you are romantic and make her feel good as a woman. what can she say if you guys ever break up.