Nurses and marriage

1 Reading some posts regarding retirement and worst financial mistakes and........


Marrying the wrong person(staying with or divorcing) seems to be a big hiccup for nurses-men who quit work now that they married a nurse(kaching!?)

Do we want to fix under-achieving men or whatever their issues might be?

What are your thoughts?
Find someone who has a better paying job than a nurse.

Nursing students or nurses should be enough in tune with today's environment to be able to keep out of relationships where the man is looking for a meal ticket. When my daughter was in nursing school she ran into two of these jerks and told me she told one of them off to his face. He was arrogant enough to let it be known what his motives were.

Im a male so I dont think I will be married to any under achieving males..... Aside from that, why the double standard, if things were flipped I am sure it would be ok for my wife to stay home, most women would probably even be jealous that she gets to stay at home. I wish she made more than me so I could stay at home or work part time. Maybe people should try harder to work out the marriage problems that are real rather than complain about money/who works/who doesnt work. If it really is a problem and they are really going broke while the spouse(dude/chick) REALLY sits on the couch at home all day, quit enabling them if it bothers you. Shut off the cable, stop bringing groceries home, dont give them money, turn off the internet, dont pay for their cars.... If they are abusive or adulterous then leave the relationship and dont use the kids as an excuse(or anything for that matter).

Quote from caliotter3Nursing students or nurses should be enough in tune with today's environment to be able to keep out of relationships where the man is looking for a meal ticket. When my daughter was in nursing school she ran into two of these jerks and told me she told one of them off to his face. He was arrogant enough to let it be known what his motives were.

Yeah, "love" is blind. My daughter has two kids so she is beyond the blind phase.

Quote from ArgoIm a male so I dont think I will be married to any under achieving males..... Aside from that, why the double standard, if things were flipped I am sure it would be ok for my wife to stay home, most women would probably even be jealous that she gets to stay at home. I wish she made more than me so I could stay at home or work part time. Maybe people should try harder to work out the marriage problems that are real rather than complain about money/who works/who doesnt work. If it really is a problem and they are really going broke while the spouse(dude/chick) REALLY sits on the couch at home all day, quit enabling them if it bothers you. Shut off the cable, stop bringing groceries home, dont give them money, turn off the internet, dont pay for their cars.... If they are abusive or adulterous then leave the relationship and dont use the kids as an excuse(or anything for that matter).

I actually WISH my husband wanted to quit his job and stay home. We would save a fortune on daycare, the laundry would get done regularly, and I wouldn't have to grocery shop. He's really seems to enjoy all of those domestic things, but unfortuanatly he also loves his work, so it's a no go. Too bad.....

lol. I dont care what my wife does, she can chill at home or work if she wants. As long as she loves me that is enough. We have been broke together and now we are not broke together..... as long as we are together we are good to go..

Quote from Argolol. I dont care what my wife does, she can chill at home or work if she wants. As long as she loves me that is enough. We have been broke together and now we are not broke together..... as long as we are together we are good to go..

Quote from ArgoIm a male so I dont think I will be married to any under achieving males..... .

This is kinda like guy bashing . Now that being said I'm a guy yeap you got it. In my Nursing class i seen relationships go down the drain what is it with Nursing School and Divorce. Or the nursing field in general some of the women i have dated i can state the same thing why do they want a meal ticket. Why do they think because they are married or even dating a nurse and they work at walmart its ok. I Think for women its more so how they look at their guy always wanting more and look at their future. Can i be happy for the next 60 yrs and they have a independence in place as a nurse. Most women like the idea they can now pay for them selfs with out the help of a man. I think in both cases we just want or partner to step up. I'm making so much now i want you to do the same or even better. And for Men i think some feel they supported you through your Nursing its time to get the rewards so they do stop work or go to work part time kinda like Look i helped my wife and or my girlfriend become a nurse now she can support me. But the type of support guys are doing is wrong. Its should be She can now support me as in I can go back to school or go for a new job or so on In relationships people seperate the levels they should be at. What might start out as hand and hand as soon as a partner reaches a goal they seem to leave the other partner behind. So is it really under achiving? The relationship was fine before you became a Nursing Student so what changed? Some people think becoming a nurse is a way to break out to start a new life. I have found that most nursing students take being a Nurse and make it a life changing ordeal. So with that being said It's easy to to see or even put a label on your spouse or partner.. These are my thoughts use them as you wish ... Anthony

I think that people get way too caught up in finding their "equal", that they miss the point of what a marriage entails. Surely you want to find a man with money who is your equal, who doesn't but be realistic based on your life and what you really want. A hard working man, go getter, one who can provide for his family fairly not necessarily equally will do me just fine because alot of the time you find a man with money that cheats. I would rather have the underlined overall because when the marriage blows up in your face, the money and his "equal" status can't save it. I am married to a man that makes more then me now but when I graduate as a nurse I will make more then him and that is mainly because I plan on becoming a nurse practitioner. He isn't broke but will I be able to stay at home based on his income, no. That is fine because I don't plan on being a stay at home mom anyway. He is a great man, doesn't cheat, does the things I like and wants his marriage to stay intact. I would pick him again and again over a man that makes alot of money and runs around on me. Not saying you can't find a faithful man with money because you can but I see far more cases of women married to men with money that mistreat them and underneath it all, it is all about the money and "equal" status.